Cheating Moroccan husband

Submitted by Anna (United States), Nov 5, 2010 at 19:40

Pandora,

I am glad to see that you did not get married or have children with any of the men you mentioned. I married a Moroccan man 12 years my junior, but we loved each other so much. It was a whirlwind romance and we traveled to Morocco after I became pregnant and had a wonderful time with his family. Our child is now almost two and I just found out that he cheated on me with a girl in a city close to ours. He was in his car with her when he had told me he was with a male friend of his and accidentally called me and left a message on my cell phone, where I heard them talking. He convinced me that it was a not a girlfriend, but the female friend of his other male friend and like an idiot, I believed him. Ladies, trust your gut instincts, because while I never dreamed he would cheat, something had been bothering me and making me feel down for a couple of weeks before I found out and while I am a normally happy and upbeat person, I couldn't explain my sadness. That was God telling me something wasn't right. So, a few days went by and on a whim, I decided to check his cell phone bill and sure enough, there was call after call and text after text to this girl. I called her and she admitted their six week affair. They met on the plane when he was on his way back from Morocco. I found her on facebook and she emailed me the entire sad story. They had relations twice and he had never even told her he was married. He even denied having children! This is, without a doubt, the worst thing that has happened to me. I am pretty and have a college degree and I am not fat and never dreamed this would happen to me. He said he was sorry and just bored and I was not paying enough attention to him. I have a small child! What did he expect? However, I don't blame myself and we are trying to work it out. He called her in front of me and put her on speaker phone and told her it was over. He then changed his cell phone number. I am trying to put it behind me because you can't stop loving someone just like that, but I doubt we will ever be the same again. Be careful and trust your instincts. Someone I loved and trusted betrayed me and he was the LAST PERSON you would ever think would do this. It can happen to you because it happened to me.

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