response to CHEATING

Submitted by Anna (United States), Nov 14, 2010 at 19:57

Hello all! This is Anna again! I would like to say that I did not mean to imply in my blog that cheating is a Moroccan thing, because it isn't. You are right! I just happened to mention my husband's nationality because this site is about advice against marrying Muslim men. I know that men of all cultures cheat. I have read that 60% of men cheat on their wives. I cannot tell you the hurt and disappointment this has caused me. It is very hard to forgive and impossible to forget, but my husband seems genuinely contrite and I believe that he has learned a lesson and if I did not believe this, I would not stay in this marriage. This is something that we have to work on together and I am not sure it was a good idea for me to write on this blog because I have read the comments, such as "once a cheater, always a cheater" and that person wrote that he WILL cheat again. Well, he knows if he does, our relationship is over. I forgave him once, but I made it perfectly CLEAR to him that if he hurts me again, I will end our marriage. I am very fortunate because I am not financially dependent on him and we had a prenuptial agreement to protect not only my assets and inheritance, but his as well. I know without a shadow of a doubt that he loves our daughter and would be devastated to be separated from her. We have talked about this at length and he is truly sorry. I always said I would never stay with someone who cheated on me, but I still love the guy and we have a lot of wonderful memories. He did not want to end our relationship. If he truly wanted to be with someone else, I suppose he would be with her right now. He definitely ended it with her because I heard him do it and I know she wouldn't have anything to do without To Straight Talk Luigi, I appreciate your insightful comments, but we did not begin as an internet or long distance relationship. We met here in the state we live in. It is difficult to give generalities and give advice because ultimately, we have to decide. Bye for now!

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