Doubts about my marriage

Submitted by Jess (United States), Nov 14, 2010 at 20:04

I married a man in Italy about a year and half ago. He was born in Jordan. At first he lied and said he was half italian and american, but then after being with him and pressing him for a few weeks he admitted he was full Jordanian. He said he thought I wouldn't like him if he told me where he was from.

Well, to make a long story short. We ended up getting married in Italy and moving back to my home in the states. Anyways, since we have been here for a year he has not worked. I do all the work, he stays up at night and sleeps during the day. Hasn't gone to college, eventhough I moved in walking distance to one. He is 11 years younger than me. He is very close to his brother and even has a picture of him in his wallet. I sometimes wonder if he is just staying with me long enough to get his 10 year green card then he will leave me?

He doesn't put in any effort in the relationship and says hes given up on me trusting him. Well I found out he met other girls online before from the states and even asked one to go to Italy. It makes me think hes been looking for an american woman for a while. I told him about this because I knew it and he lied about that. Then later he admitted he lied and said cause he didn't wanna deal with my doubts. Anyways, this relationship is making my brain crazy. I can't seperate from him because he doesn't have a license or a job, money etc. I cant send him back to Italy because if I find out we wanna get back together they won't let him back here again. So you see my dilemma. If I let him sit and wait to get 10 year card then I am obligated to support him if he goes on welfare until he becomes a citizen, even if he leaves me! So don't know what to do, but I know I'm not happy, and he's not trying very hard at all.

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