The odds are against us.

Submitted by Risks (United States), Nov 26, 2010 at 00:11

"I am a christian and had a failure in my early 20's in marriage, I don't want to fail God again, so you can see this is huge."

Most of us on here say we are christian. I have a problem with that because the Bible specifically tells us to be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers. Are you a practicing christian farmiliar with the Bible?These men are muslims, some practicing some not. God cannot bless something he tells us to avoid. We can pray for his mercy on us to endure whatever we will go through in these relationships. We cannot justify for loving these men. You seem like a nice lady who loves him very much, so do I love my husband. But I know it cannot work deep down inside. I too am 8 years older than him, he 40, Im 48, (By looks, he looks older from years of a lot of smoking). Im not going to say I look younger like some of the ladies on here believes. He was in the process of getting a divorce when I met him so he say. We applied for a greencard while he is still in his country and it is taking a long time. I believe immigration is thinking these men are running scams on us to get into the country. They are not approving them so fast, and easy now. If your husband is sleeping in another room, soon he will sleeping in another house. This is their culture even with their own kind. IF he stays with you, you WILL share him with others. If he has never married, you can look for him to want to go home and he will marry one of his own kind and have children, even if he doesn't love her. This is their duty to islam and their family as a muslim man. When he gets to the place where he doesn't need you, he will move on unless he want to keep you around for financial support. Jordanian men will talk bad about their families so they will have an excuse to not bring you around them. I do not know what to do yet also. But I do know alot of the advice on here makes sense. You like me and many others on here want our marriage to be different, when the odds are so against us. When loving any man from any countries you will take risks, even the ones here in the states. Good luck with your marriage.

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