My experience with a Turkish man

Submitted by Julie (United States), Dec 10, 2010 at 05:33

I am an American woman and have had a bad experience with a Turkish man. He was so charming and loving and practically worshipped the ground I walked on. This was until I discovered that he had a wife and kids. I walked away, he was in tears. He sat her down in front of the video camera and as she is screaming at me, he is saying calmly, "I want to divore her." "I don't love her." "I love you." I was so stunned I think that I sat there and listened (even though I could not understand her) She had to hear his tone to me even if she did not understand what he was saying to me. He basically told me that he was forced to marry her and is afraid of being beat up by her family if he leaves, etc... Oh, did I mention they have 5 kids?

Although we did not marry, he was a master of lying and manipulating me. He started telling me that he didn't want me to go to the gym, he wanted me fat, he wanted me to stop working on my master's, etc. I empathize with you and your situation. It is hard to love men like this. They are all passion and fire, but they are not a whole lot else. Integrity? morals? I do not feel that he even respected himself. I mean how could he? I am here if you want to talk.

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