Update

Submitted by Jess (United States), Jan 17, 2011 at 08:42

Well, it's been a year now since my Jordanian husband moved to the states. Since he moved here he hasn't been much interested in sex (he says hes just going through culture shock). He has no prob staying up at night watching porno. He chats all the time with friends, lies constantly about things. Doesnt share emotionally or support me around the house or emotionally. He doesnt even sleep with me often at night, he stays up doing who knows what. He wont share his passwords and even has his facebook friends private.

Well, of course ive snooped in the past so I prob deserve it, but thats because he doesnt share anything with me! Recently I found some strange messages on his "quick pad" on his phone. I dont even know what quick pad is, cause im tech impaired. But some messages said "dont worry, be happy" another even said "love you forever!" He got pissed of course when I asked him about it and smashed his phone (great excuse for him to get a new $400 phone, btw!)

Anyways, he said he doesnt know who sent those messages, they are like spam, (he always giggles in these conversations, which also makes me think he lies!) then he told a friend that he sent me those messages a while ago and i forgot! Well, you know I never suspected him of cheating on me, but I do question his motivations for marrying me at times. He said he left "Italy for me" and that should prove it! But u know, he hasn't tried hard to have a "relationship" since hes been here! Sorry just ranting, now ive told him to move out and get a room so he can think about what he wants. Well, he only seemed sad one night, the rest hes been now motivated, sending emails for rooms, and we get along better than ever. I guess actions speak louder than words about someones true feelings.

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