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Submitted by Li'l Star (United States), Jan 19, 2011 at 05:57

This comment is so sad. You lump all women here as if they are one. I know many virgins that live in the USA and yes...they wait until they are married. Yes I know many that don't but you have no right to regard all women to be the same just because they live in the USA or what you deem westernized. I also know the men in Morroco, Egypt and so on get sex from somewhere while they live there and are unmarried. Gosh, I've chatted with so many different people all over. These men admit they have sex with the women there so what's up? Obviously not all Arab women are so virginal. Now we can go a few ways with this. If you wish to criticize all women that aren't Arab, well some men like women that know what they are doing in bed, that don't just lay there...that are a bit carefree and can please their man. Now doesn't that sound a bit assuming? After all I just basically told you, you were ignorant and I lumped you all together didn't I. I bet you just felt yourself burning inside. The thing is, women are women everywhere. Each one is unique and different from the other. If we wish to get technical, the women from your country are more repressed than in our countries and you have to accept the way you are treated because once you are divorced, you are considered used and it is much harder for you to find a man that will ever accept you...a good one that is. Yet the divorce rate is extremely high there so imagine that. Now we look at the western women. These women are more self sufficient, able to take care of themselves as well as others, pull their own load if needed or be a sweet innocent creature for a dear husband if needed. We are very capable of being the sweet li'l princess and making him feel the great, masculine king. We know the right words to build him up but we will accept lying and well, in Islam it's okay to lie if a man thinks he's protecting...he says you but I say um... himself:) which means it's okay to have a fifteen year relationship with another woman on the side and keep it a lie to you...then once you find out your whole life is a lie, well he's Muslim man...just accept it. Women here, if we are treated bad then we have the option of kicking those awful creatures to the curb and to find a good person that will love us as we love them, to spend our lives with. You, on the other hand, can't do that. You are stuck. You just have to turn a blind eye and accept it and the only things that you have to live for as life goes on are your kids and your jewels. I'm sorry but no Arab man...no man in this whole world would be worth it to me to live my whole life in a loveless marriage where a woman is treated as a lessor human being. ... If you wish to generalize, this is the way all the developed countries usually see these Arab third world countries and the people who live there. At least the women here are free to make choices to be in loving, committed relationships where we are not being cheated on. I always felt if I give my heart to a man he better take care of it, cherish it...if he screws up and goes out and messes around then he's lost it and me. Thankfully my man adores me and thank goodness he is not Arab. if he didn't adore me, if he felt he could just cheat then I would be allotted to do as I pleased because I never agreed to be with any man that didn't cherish me. He made a vow to cherish me and he'd be breaking it the first time he cheated because screwing around on a wife is not cherishing her.

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