dating/marrying a moroccan

Submitted by american_girl (United States), Feb 2, 2011 at 22:13

I am an American who dated a Moroccan for two years. We are both very educated. I have a graduate degree and he is a MD. I can tell you that it all depends on they type of Moroccan you are attempting to date/marry. If he is open minded or assimilated to American culture than you should have no problem. If he is set in his ways you will have to live the lifestyle that expects you to live.

Personally, my Moroccan ex-bf liked to think he was progressive but he was not. He originally told me that he did not care that I am atheist, and then later he admitted that he wanted me to convert to Islam. After one year of dating, I finally figured out that he was still seeing someone else back in Morocco. He would tell me that a cousin or friend was coming to stay for the week and it was actually his Moroccan fiance. I found out that he was leading her to believe he will marry her for the past 3 years or more. When I would try to talk to him about what he was doing and how wrong it was he would quickly try to change the subject. His favorite topic was trying to prove to me how big of a slut I was.(And remember, he was caught cheating, not me?!) His cheating on me and lying to this poor moroccan girl was simply not up for discussion.

I think that he was looking out for his best interest and did not care who he hurt in the process. I believe that he thought he was "trying out" girls to see who was righteous enough for him to marry. I don't think he felt remorse for what he did (does, I should say... I know he is still with the poor girl and who knows who else!)

In summary, lets not forget Morocco is a third world country. There you will find many archaic ideas and practices just as you will in the backwoods of Georgia. And this is the reason why you will find some Moroccan men to be selfish, insecure and are devoid of morals and male chauvinists. Whereas men in developed countries would not think of acting in such a manner and getting away with it because they have accountability. I think this can be applied to all inter-cultural relationships.

I wonder what the respectable moroccan men of the world would say in response to my post? Would they admit they have friends back home that carry on like my x did?

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