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Submitted by Sister in Islam (United States), Feb 8, 2011 at 19:24

I wanted to reply but seems there is some sort of bug on this site, slows my browser until it just needs a reboot.

American women are unfortunately don't know what make a good Muslim man a good Muslim. They assume because he comes here and partakes in common social norms like partying, drinking alcohol, dancing, night clubs, gambling that he is like "Americanized" He is NOT TRUST WORTHY if he does all this, even if it seems normal to you, these are all very haram things in Islam. DO NOT MARRY ANY MAN WHO DOES NOT HAVE A GREEN CARD PERIOD! Never ever allow you to think, "Oh he loves me," "This can't happen to me." "Not everyone is the same." Sorry, this is bad thinking on your end and then when he marry you and in four years you bear a child together and he dumps you, it kills you but you allowed yourself to be used.

It is haram for a Muslim man to marry any women on the basis of a green card! He can only marry her for four reason, based on her wealth, beauty, her faith in her religion, her family, but the best of all these is her faith. If he says he should marry to complete half of his religion then he should be praying 5 times a day on time, he should pay zakat (charity to the poor) he fast all days in Ramadhan, he should care about his mother by sending her money if her husband has past away. IF he is doing all these, chances are he is a GOOD Muslim and thus good husband. He should also have a mild temperment, and humble personality. He should lower his gaze when women come near him. These are all characteristics of a good Muslim man.

His raise is one which should be considered. If You do not know about his raise, you can be pretty rest assured that he is good if he has all the above. A man who has been raised with a father who beats his wife, is not a man you want to be around. Period.

Yes about 90% of the Muslim men in American may not fit this critera, hense there are alot of Muslim men in USA that do not make good husbands for American women.

If you want to convert to ISlam first know your religion well and then choose a man based on his obedience to Allah.

There are bad men in EVERY society.

I also read that when these so called Muslim men hop in a plane back to their country they are changed men. Yes ofcourse! Saudi Arabia is a very different serious society. A so called Muslim man who partaked in bad things and then becomes different in his country, yes this is common. The worlds are very different.

It takes a lot of knowing what to look out for and not being too needy to marry any man even if they want to use you. Stand tall women even if you are middle aged. Don't be used, abused or hurt by men that don't have your best interest at heart.

I am a Muslim and I own a Muslim Matrimonials site.

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