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Submitted by Also a sister in islam (United States), Jun 4, 2011 at 00:35

This statement is right on target! Just because someone has told you that you are special, beautiful and all the other lovely most beautiful things you want and need to hear. Remember what your mother told you..... that a man will tell you (or woman in a visa case) anything you want to hear to get what he wants. It is true for any of you out there. For years I have wanted to believe that it is different but it is not, the rule is always the same..... If he needs you for something he will do whatever it takes to get what he wants. Worse is when you are paying for it. Any decent muslim man would have enough self respect to pay his own way and would rarely look outside his own country for a wife to pay his way.

The story is a classic boy meets girl in other country. Boy is the best guy that ever walked the face of the earth. You talk for hours, he really understands you and loves you, boy gets what he wants(visa) or not, boy leaves girl to find girl of his dreams. Girl is destroyed, financially disabled, heartbroken, etc., The story has never ever and let me say it again, never ever been any different.

Let me share with you some of the classic signs......comes everyday on the internet, then one day does not show up for a day or two, I was sick, there were no computers at the internet cafe blah blah blah. there are so many. He is invisible mode when he comes on line and then says " what i dont know why", he needs some financial help, his family they are struggling with blah blah blah. Not once but many times. He calls you habibti, sweetheart, baby blah blah blah dont here from him for weeks at a time. has more than one online account. many names and identities but you only talk to him on one. I am sure there are others here who can contribute to the signs. Don't think because you are an intelligent woman that you are exempt to the free nothings luring you to a place that you know deep down you should not be.

Pls ask questions, investigate, if something seems off and you cant put your finger on it. Love yourself enough to trust yourself before it is too late.

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