To nixely: Mexican-American w Arab bfriend

Submitted by Laura (United States), Jul 8, 2011 at 16:19

Dear nixley, As you might have seen on the date I posted how I felt about having an arab boyfriend, was a couple of years ago. Many things have happened. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 5 years, wonderful guy, very attentive, treated me super well, but in the end, he decided to go back to his country.

I of course, at the beginning of the relationship considered moving to Saudi with him, but as time passed somethings happened in the relationship (suspicions on infidelity), that made me realize that if he was not willing to compromise in some way with me, why was I supposed to sacrifice everything. I spoke to his mother several times about this, she is an American which married his father and is now living in Saudi. She told me that if she could turn back time, she would not have married my exboyfriends father and she would have never left the USA to go live to Saudi Arabia.

I know it is hard to realize this, trust me, it took me 5 years! Do not waste 5 years of your precious life like I did, on someone who will not meet you half way. It is not worth your time or your emotions. It was really hard when we broke up because he started treating me differently when he told me he was going back to Saudi, he started being a bit of a jerk, partying with guy friends, not answering my calls etc. His behavior actually helped me get thru the breakup process. I wish him no harm, he is a great guy but was just not the right person for me. You have to be honest with yourself and don't stay in the relationship too long, only to realize in the end that you knew from the beginning that this wasn't going to work out. But in the end, you should know that everything happens for a reason.

I am now happily married to the man of my dreams and I am also expecting twin babies! You never know what life has in place for you. Good luck and if you have any other questions let me know how I can help you

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