i hope you are right

Submitted by ttt (Turkey), Jul 26, 2011 at 11:42

there is no doubt that your Turkish man is loving and extremely caring. I live in Turkey and have seen many MANY westerners marry their turkish boyfriends and move to Turkey with them.dont want to bust your bubble, and for your sake, I hope he will never change and you will be happy.

Statistically, 90per cent of Turkish men change in the second year of marriage. I have seen this happen many many times. When you are in his country it is an entirely different story. You will find your personal freedom gradually diminishing, he may start telling you what to wear and where to go. He will not like your western female friends-sorry, may not like your females western friends. A friend of mine met this wonderful turkish man. He worshiped the ground she walked on. A year later she is less and less allowed to do stuff on her own, having male friends is out of the question, ...among other problems.

The pattern has started and she doesnt even realise it. She is slowly turning into a turkish woman from the East. Her culture does not appeal to him or his family anymore. Now she acts as though nothing is wrong and somehow he has managed to isolate her from her own friends. She used to be a free bird, strong and sure of herself. She is now showing signs of an abused wife. As the pattern goes, we all know that one day she would have to flee the country or get a divorce. She will get a black eye if she disagrees or 'steps out of line'. In their country, you are nobody. He calls the shots. Also, you can't get a job easily in Turkey, unless you speak fluent Turkish, so financially you will depend on him. You want to make this work, do not leave the states, where women have rights. Keep money in a bank account for a rainy day. 5 months or 2 years is nothing. The real person in any relationship emerges much later.

Good luck

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