Turkish man/Czech woman marriage, Muslim, university exchange

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 4, 2011 at 16:23

Hello Monique

I'm not sure where you are at these days or if you made the trip.

But these things are worth considering:

First of all, it's never good when your man just drops off a cliff after soothing you up. And he certainly knows the dating game if he's getting into family, personal secrets and using US instead of ME.

So it's no wonder why you like him.

Speaking as a guy, it tells me that at the very least he's losing interest. "Not having time" is rarely if ever a good excuse to put off someone so important in your life.

If you've read my posts over the last 4.5 years, then you may remember me saying that while international relationships are loaded with scams, you're still going to have the usual pool of players.

Right now, the both of you are on different pages. He doesn't seem terribly motivated about you despite his excitement over your ticket purchase and it is never a good sign.

I would be adamant about trying to figure to out what is going on. If he's going to be defensive about it, then that's a bad sign and maybe its time to move on. I've found that international scammers will get defensive, even threaten to leave you at their own expense, especially if they know you've fallen for them.

He also does not sound like someone I would wait around for.

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