Thanks Straight Talk Luigi

Submitted by Hawaiian Girl (United States), Aug 6, 2011 at 07:35

I truly appreciate your message. Thankfully, I am very confident and emotionally strong. I have many true friends and family that I've been reaching out to in order to bounce off all of my concerns about my man of many issues. I've even talked to former boyfriends about my issues with him. Believe it or not, I've never shed a tear for him. It is a wonder, but as soon as I started to see the red flags, my brain automatically took over and ruled my heart. It helps a whole lot, too, that I had a very full life before he came along, and my life is even fuller now. I make decent money, and I have no health or appearance issues -- that's a biggie. I have a great career/job, I am taking an on-line certificate class to open more/bigger career doors, I have many different friends to see movies with -- at least one a week.

Last night I was with friends for sangrias, this afternoon I am double-dating to see a movie, tomorrow my adopted Hawaiian sister (who attended elementary school in Hawaii with me) will hang out to shop, watch another movie, etc. I also get a good work out at the gym 3-5 days a week. I own a house (that has equity) that needs my TLC. That's just a start to how full and blessed my life is. I was really hoping this guy could be bonus, but such is not the case.The disapointment was hard to take at first, but I dealt with it. What can you do. Right now, though, I do not have the need to cut him off. He is an abuser and a control freak, but I have not allowed him to abuse me or control me. Big difference. I'll just let him add color to my life, for a while. I have and will continue to tell him that I have no hard feelings about anything with him. I learned a lot and experienced a lot, and no harm no foul. He's the one who is lost and broken and will likely never change.

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