Leave him...

Submitted by Mrs. Graham (Philippines), Sep 6, 2011 at 10:42

Blueshadow, If a part of you is in doubt and if your family is against the relationship, DO NOT DO IT! Isis was right in saying that you should be cautious. There are a lot of non-Muslim men in the world that you can meet in real life. Don't settle for someone that you have just met online (whether he's a Muslim or not). I have been living in the Philippines for the past seven years and I am delighted to see that the local women here are independent, confident and free. They have equal rights with men and there are no restrictions or whatsoever about the way women want to live their lives. My husband and I lived in several parts of Middle East for ten years and I have also lived in Turkey for 3 years before I got married. With my years of experience living overseas, I think I have seen enough to write about Muslim men in Middle East.

Since you are asking for pieces of advice regarding dating a Turk, kindly take the time to read my notes below: 1. IF you value your freedom, forget this guy and move on. Tell him that you won't help him arrange his papers if he'd come to Philippines. Do not get yourself compromised! Create a new account and don't ever get in touch with him anymore. Cut all communication lines! 2. Turks (and several Muslim races) look down at women from Philippines and other western countries. If you have read the posts here, you'll notice that most Muslim men only used Western and Asian women like you to fulfill their sexual urges. 3. Muslim men get a kick out of screwing foreign women. My husband had Middle Eastern clients who attended a party in our house a few years back. I overheard several of them bragging about how many maids and nurses from Philippines that they have slept with. So be careful dear...I am sure you do not want you to be a part of these filthy men's list of sexual conquests. 4. Listen to your family. Think of them as angels that God sent to protect you. They are saving you from all the pain and misery that a relationship with this kind of guy would bring. 5. Go out and meet real people. Give yourself a chance to meet men in your country. There's nothing wrong in having online friends, but choosing a potential husband/partner needs real interaction and not just online conversations. I hope I've said enough to stop you from making a foolish decision. Tc!

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