My advice, talk on it

Submitted by Mitakashika (Slovenia), Sep 13, 2011 at 15:52

Dear Monique,

my boyfriend is turkish, we are together now for 2 years and we know eachother for 6. It is hard to generalize about turkish men, although is good to know the culture he is coming from to understand more. I cant speak about your boyfriend too, as only you are the one who knows him and can try understand him. From my opinion you should talk a lot right becouse of this too. My love is sometime similar.. when he is busy he contacts me less, its obvious his head is away. But when i reacted he realized and did his best to fix it. it is just he is hard to focuse on more things and when he focuses on work a lot he focuses on work. Also if you dont say he might just not notice that he is doing sth bad, or may be he just tries to get away cuz may be he lost hope in your future. Maybe working for his father makes him depressed and obligated and it closes chances for you to be together, or sth else is bothering him and making him sad too. May be he is running away from feeling sad and focus into work more too because of it. My advice is you should talk a lot and be very open to eachother, try understand him and let him understand you. True there are many horny turkish men but when turkish man loves he loves with all of his heart, so if you have this build on it.

Good luck

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