my story

Submitted by lost and heart-broken (France), Sep 23, 2011 at 12:14

my moroccan bf broke up with me one month ago, im sad, angry and confused. i want u to help me to see what is going on inside.

we met each other in 2009, until now we have dated for two years. in the past two years, he was very sweet and faithful to me. we r both foreigners in france. he came to france at 2005 as a student. i came to france at 2009 as a student also. i dont speak french well, so he helped me with a lot of paper stuff. when i graduated, he helped me so hard to get an inernship after a phd position. he took care of me and was like a family to me. the only bad thing is he is very skeptical and controlling. but i thought it all blames on me. because i tried to leave him for another guy once, but i came back without doing anything wrong.

this June, i broke up with him because there are more and more argue between us. he focus on his work and ignore me a lot, whatever we talked about, we can issue a fight. so i broke up with him without any expectation. he accepted it, but soon he came to beg me to take him back. i didnt accept it. but very soon i went out with another guy. at that time i was lost. he called me and text me everyday to check where i was and what i was doing. he even came to my room at 1am or came to my school to talk with me. he even creat a girl to make me jealous. so i broke up with that guy and came back with him after three weeks because i found out i love him more than everything.

after that we spent three weeks together before he went back to his country for vacation. during these three weeks back together, he even asked me to marry him. he was there just for 12 days. everything we chat on internet and talked on the phone. he reported to me what he did everyday and he bought me a lot of gifts from his country. but after he came back, my gut feeling told me sth is wrong. i can feel it from his eyes and how he talked to me. he told me that there is an ex girl who told him that he is a great guy, his face was full of happyness and pround when he said it. the week after he came back from morocco, i asked him to stay in my room everyday. but at the 6th or 7th day, he started to tell me he has a lot of work that he has to work late so he cant come to my place. but i insisted. the last day of ramadan, he insisted to stay in the mosque to pray for a whole night. the next morning, he wrote me an email to ask for a break. he said he cant forget that i left him and went out with another guy.

i begged ,i cried and i kept calling. nothing worked.

but on the third day after the break up, he gave me a second chance. he came to my place everyday to have dinner and then went to his place to sleep alone. the fourth day evening he slept with me and we had sex. but the next day he broke up with me again, he said this is not what he wants, he is not happy with me.

i stopped contacting him for the second week after the break up, but he sent me messages to ask me if im ok, if im going out with sb,ect.

during the second week, i know that he starts to talk with a girl from his city. he met her three times in his vacation. she is his ex girl two years ago. she didnt date at all and waited for him. he told me she is his new gf.

at the beginning of the third week, i begged him again to give me another chance. he said ok. that night we had dinner together and we had sex like a couple. but the next day he broke up with me again. he said he did that because he has pity on me, and also he wanted to have sex. i was totally heart broken.

on the same day at night, he told me that he asked the girl to be his gf officially.

at the first beginning, we had a fight, he said a lot of bad things to me.i was too sad,then i accepted it, and told him that ill never contact him anymore.

at night, he called and told me that he is sorry and he wants us to stay friends.that was last friday.

during the whole weekend, i didnt contact him, but he kept calling me and sending me messages to tell me that he stopped contacting his gf, he asked her to put their relationship in a stand-by. he said he doesnt want to hurt me more.blablabla...i told him that i dont care anymore....

this week, from monday to wednesday, i didn contact him at all. but he still sent me messages and called me, to ask me how i am and sometimes sent me sth very sweet,sth like good night or u r very special,ect...

on wednesday night, he came to my place and ask to see me. i let him in.we talked for three hours. he told me that he doesnt know if he did the right choice or not, so he will not be with that girl and nobody else until i feel ok. he asked me to stay with him between friends and lovers for one year so he can see clearly what he wants. i rejected that night.

the next day, i happened to find out who is his gf, and we talked. she is so shocked that what happened betwwen me and him. and im so shocked that he didnt stop contacting her at all, she is always his gf. after he knew that we talked. he acted like an animal. he shout at me. he asked me what i told her about us. he blackmailed me that he would kill me and destroy my life. and he really came to school. he was so angry and broke my phone card(because i told him that i will call the security in my school). but only a few minutes after he broke my card. he felt sorry and began to apologize to me. then he took me to change for

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