On-line relationship

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 14, 2011 at 12:48

The problem here is that is a man from another country half-way around the world that you have never met. I've done on-line dating for 11 years, and some of the girls I was talking too, well, let's just say that they didn't sound like women at all.

So, if he flies over, does that mean a woman will come out instead?

Probably not in your case, but on-line relationships have a myriad of problems.

For one thing, it's impossible to know the person. Even if he was being honest with you 100% of the time, I'd say you're getting about a third of what you would in person at best.

For starters, you've indicated you've been searching for a site that talks about non-Muslim women and Muslim men. If you are looking on-line to validate your relationship, that's a red flag.

What you must ask yourself is:

Does he ask for money, or try to guilt trip you into giving him some by telling a bunch of sob stories?

When is he on-line? Is it at 2 am local time?

How can you tell if you are the only girl he talks to? Does he have a facebook or social networking page loaded only with women? Does he have other dating profiles on-line you don't know about?

I've also observed that people who need to meet friends from other countries, much less dates, have a myriad of social and/or mental issues. It's usually not their fault, but these can be painstaking, significant obstacles in a relationship.

Really, you are much better off finding someone locally, because even if this isn't a scam, you still have issues with religious differences, cultural differences and it would be difficult to see each other.

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