I already know the truth

Submitted by Monique (Czech Republic), Oct 21, 2011 at 05:37

Dear Mitakashika,

thanks for your advice...But unfortunately, before I left Netherlands and I came back to Czech, I visited my school where we were studying together and I fugured out that he had a GF in Turkey for 4 years. They broke up in March, but we got together on January, so he had double relationship. Then he met another girl - she contacted me after our teacher told her the situation...Because all these people knew each other. I talked to her a lot and she told me they spent some months together - actually until May and then she realized he's cheating on her with his schoolmate. So I learned everything..It was hard time and I decided to stop contacting him.

After one week he called me and I told him I know everything. Of course he deny, but since that time he called me almost every day and asked me to come....So I went to Turkey to his house(even if I already planned to stay in the hotel and make my own holiday) and I have to say that I had amazing time with him and also his familly....Well, both of us we had a hard time then we talked a lot...His familly started to love me and they put our pictures on the walls. I'll go there again on January - they asked me to come. I'm back home and I became stronger and I simply made my own plan for my life...I'm planning to go to Malta and he wants to join me....Well I think he won't do it...But it doesn't matter.

I decided to act like this because I already made a lot for this relationship and now it's his turn....If he doesn't take any action, I'll just leave with pride and smile.Because if he always acts like this, he will never find a true person for his life....I learned that everything is uncertain for him and actually he's quite fu*ked up with his psychology...I was trying to help him and I gave him a chance....If he won't respect it - it's his problem and he will be fu*ked up for the rest of his life. He's affraid of himself and he doesn't know what to do....Also his friends are not really true for him......Well, as we say in Czech : I'm aslo on the horse now....I can do whatever I want and I will leave everything on destiny....No plans, no dreams....I'll just live my life to the fullest. Now he's trying to talk almost every day, always coming up with his feelings - looking depressed,paranoid that I will leave him....Well, now he lives exactly the same what I did last half a year....

Well, so the problem wasn't with his work. As somebody commented my message - he found someone else. Well, it was obvious, I was just too blind....

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