Susan, I understand you

Submitted by lost and heart-broken (France), Nov 3, 2011 at 05:45

Susan, I read your story and i think our feelings are almost the same. Our moroccan exs are good players. They have their gf and they still want to keep us around.

My ex borke up with me when he got a contract with a big company. He thought there was no problem for him staying in France and a good life was going to start (high salary, good appartment, new car). When he thought he was going to have everything, he dumped me. But God is not blind. Right after he dumped me, Sarkozy published that new policy of reducing work permit for non-europe students. Then he has bog problems in staying in france. Then he came to me, to lie that he broke up with his moroccan gf, to tell me that he loves me more than everything. He even said he needs me, he needs to talk with me about his problems, im the only one who he can talk to. blablabla...Just the week before last week, he even told me if he cant stay in france, he plans to go to my country to find a job....He told me, if he goes back to morocco, its for his moroccan gf, if he stays in france, that is for me(then why he dumped me when he got the contract??), if he goes to another country, he will think about what he wants(me or her). I wanted to believe him, cause I can see some hope between me and him from what he was telling. But actually deep in my heart, i was laughing, i knew it was a lie. He lies he lies and he never stop lying. In this last email, he wrote me a long article about his whole childhood, he wants me to understand him from what he went through. and again, he told me he doesnt love this gf, and she is just a back-up for him. I smiled after i read the email, anther lie.....

I dont want to waste my time and my life on sb who doenst love me and plays with me. So I decided to leave. I told him im seeing sb else and i dont want to have any contact with him. he said he doesnt want I sleep with the new guy and he will be here for me whenever i have problems.........

Your guy is more or less like mine. Trust me, the best way to do is cut off all the contact with him. it is hard i know. im doing my best too. But this is the only way you can get over him. otherwise he will keep giving you hope and drag you around.

You and me must remember one thing: if a man really loves you, he will do everything he can to be with you, to keep you. And there is no need to waste our time and energy on sb who doesnt treasure you.

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