To Lost and Broken Hearted--Kamal and Isis comment thread

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 8, 2011 at 16:55

Hi there

Let me just first say that I am glad that you are moving on with life and seeing a new man. I've also written a reply to Kamal and Isis regarding this thread and I hope I can be of some help here.

There's a lot of comments on this thread, but I do want to point that what Isis indicated about on-line dating and meeting men on holiday is spot on. She's been on here for a few years and she even discerned her own marriage with the advice that was given on this site. I don't think she liked or enjoyed doing it, but it was neverthless done. She also shared with us that she was previously married to a man from her home country who cheated on her while she was in the hospital. You may have already read that particular thread.

In any event, a lot of women on here are between 30-60 and in many cases they have been married to a man in their country who cheated on them or were abusive in some way, and breaking it down from this angle, it's really not surprising that they feel they have to dramatically expand their geographical region to find someone decent.

As I noted to Isis, I don't think you are playing the victim at all, and I don't think you are stereotying. You made it quite clear to me what your preferences are and that not all XYZ men are bad. People who play the victim on here pop in and out whenever there is an issue and no matter how bad things get, they seem to revel in whatever emotional squalor they are in. Other invididuals whether directly or indirectly feel the need to come on-line and defend their relationship. Using information from their own testimony, it almost seemed like at least one woman spent more time writing replies to me than talking to the great and wonderful man she supposedly had.

If you are dating again that is a step in the right direction, and I think things will start to get better slowly but surely for you.

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