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Submitted by Teena (Canada), Nov 11, 2011 at 14:25

Hi I've been reading some of your stories and am so sorry for what you have been through. My moroccan husband also believes that he can do what he wants and then when he gets home act as though he was just around the corner the whole time. I'm very frustrated, sad and depressed. I come from a strong family and I'm a strong woman, he knows I am and has not pushed his luck with me too much although he drinks and smokes and recently tried chemical drugs!! Which he had never touched before!! He's 30 years old!! He works hard but changes job almost every two months and is always talking about saving money and this and that, I feel bad for him and always support him but my energy is running so low with him, I can't believe that he and as well as so many other arab men are acting like this...this is not just random, there is a real pattern of bad behaviour with these guys...but yet he preaches how I should not do this or that and can be so critical in general, at one point his behaviour towards other people was so negative, critisizing everyone that came in his path and told him to stop or he will make me and himself sick...I talk a lot of sense into him and I see his mind thinking and he apologizes alot for things he has done and always says he will do better but he just cant seem to get it straight. Its like he doesn't want to grow up and the fact that now he sees himself getting older and not advancing in life is making him depressed so he drinks and smokes and hangs with friends...vicious cycle...I'm slowly losing myself....I want to save not only myself but him too....this is all making me crazy. Thanks for listening, your stories make me feel like I'm not alone but I wish none of us would be going through this cause alot of it is soooo unecessary.

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