Hello isis and everyone...update on moroccan marriage

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Nov 13, 2011 at 20:34

Hello isis...stopping in to give everyone an update since i argued with many on this site defending my husband's character, etc...my Moroccan husband arrived in USA Dec., 2010. We are approaching one year together living in USA...married now for almost 3 years and began the relationship almost 4 years ago.

when my husband arrived, having teenagers and their mom being single for 5 years prior was the hardest adjustment for everyone. My 25 yr old son was our biggest upset. He liked him when he wanted something from us and other times, he was jealous of him. My husband was very kind to my son...gave him clothes, money, advice, etc and in the end my son fought with him and i had to ask my son to grow up and get out of my home with his wanting to fight and cause our marriage problems...They are talking now and I think my son understands my husband is a good man.

We spend our time involved in pool tournaments, soccer team (they won the championship), going out together and with my two daughters. The girls love him and have gotten closer to him now that the son is out and not trying to persuade their opinions of him. My brother never gave him a chance to know him "since he may have black in his genes,lol-he is white, btw) but my mom, sister-her usually racist husband, and all he meets love him. He has met other Arabic, pakistanian, Moroccan friends through the local Mosque during the last Ramadan. Some have been here for 10 years and still married to their white and black American wives and some have children together and these men are good providers for the families. They all have the greatest respect for me and they don't try to interfere with our marriage. I am always invited to go with my husband when he visits these friends and I give him his private time too and we have no problems and I have my time alone. I don't always go to the Bar/Grille here with my husband where he has met many white and black American friends of many ages and just this weekend. an elder man who plaqys some with my husband told me, I have a GOOD man....My husband doesn't drink and he has given up smoking while he has been here. He works and helps with the bills and spending, but he has displayed his Arabic temper over my unnecessary spending and the need to save. He says we will wait and visit his family maybe another 1-2 years as we can afford it. He keeps in touch by net. My husband is a very caring man, and it hurts him when some find out his name and realizes he is Muslim and their mouths drop...He doesn't understand the racisms. I am sorry some women here on this site has had bad relationships but there are Moroccan men who are good and good with their wifes who do love them. Ive learned that through my husband loving me and through his friends telling my husband they love their wifes and not afraid to say they do....just be careful of all men...There are a lot of sorry men in this world, so lets not stereotype on skin color or religion....sorry ive been too busy to visit or post. Hope all is well.

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