To Teena: Moroccan man marriage and husband absent at night

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 14, 2011 at 16:07

Hi Teena and welcome

I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation.

I have to say thought that whenever your partner is gone for most of the night and he isn't working third shift, that means something is clearly going on.

I see no reason to doubt that he has at some point (you make it sound as though this has been going on for sometime) been "hanging with the guys" but I'm sure I don't have to tell you that unisex gatherings in North America can be inconsistent at large friendly gatherings and I wonder if he's fooling around.

The more obvious issue though is that you are not a priority for him. This does not seem to be uncommon with numerous accounts of foreign marriage, especially if the primary motive was to get some type of residency in Canada. It may be a stretch to conclude he was scamming you the entire time from day one, but a relationship doesn't have to be mired in scandal to have these sorts of issues.

Perhaps the best counsel I can give at this time is to try and talk to him and consider getting counseling. I'm not a fan of divorce to say the least, and if he is foreign-born, you could be on the hook for some things financially if you went down that road.

It may be wise to keep some options on the table at this point and at the very least, you need to let him know how you feel about what is going on.

Working hard does not justify coming home high or drunk or whatever. A lot of people work hard and don't need to do that or more appropriately have the time for it.

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