To Cihangirgal

Submitted by Layla (United Kingdom), Nov 15, 2011 at 18:18

I dont think you should pursue a relationship with him. He made it clear he is not interested in marrying you and when a man loves a woman, he does not need to be persuaded. His family is just an excuse, even if his family didnt like you, it is not an issue that would cause a rift between them. He is a man at the end of the day. You can overcome language and cultural barrier if both of you are committed to the relationship and respect each other's differences and willing to work on it. However it seems it is only you who is willing to change yourself for him.

Most of the men who pursue Western women are from working class backgrounds, not well educated and do not hold well paying jobs. They are looking for a way out. It is easy to blame Islam or their culture, however the women will still end up heartbroken if the men came from the Carribean for example. My point is if you are liberal, get with a liberal man, if you are non religious, get with a non religious man. They are aspects of a person that is hard to change.

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