Concerns about dating foreingers abroad and at home

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 18, 2011 at 10:58

Hi Sam

Unfortunately, there's always concerns whenever you engage in a relationship with someone who is either physically abroad or here on some kind of immigration agreement or illegally.

In previous posts, I've gone into some detail about the issues of trustworthiness and communication issues.

In your situation, the main question that's going to be in the back of your mind is "will he just use me for a visa?"

I just read a news story about an American man who got stuck in the Ukraine over an international dating scam.

I think if it's early on here and you really have doubts already I would recommend against pursing this. I think you can find someone who cause this much stress and concern for you.

The reality is that no one can tell you what ultimately would happen with this man, because as this forum has shown for six years, scammers and liars do not usually reveal their true nature until you are married and solidly invested in the relationship.

So as I say, it if does bother you that much, it's probably not worth the trouble, because the odds tend to be against you, and it's always better to end things early than wait and wait.

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