My story with a Turkish man

Submitted by Sandy (United States), Dec 15, 2011 at 16:48

I met a guy who was in the US on a visa from Turkey. We met a few months before he had to back to his country. We only dated a weeks before one day he stopped returning my calls. It hurt and I tried a few times to figure out what happened but he never responded.

A few months after he went back he friend requested me on Facebook. I kept it light as I didn't want to get hurt. Slowly he started to regain my trust. We continued to get closer. I kept wanting to go visit him but he kept saying the timing wasn't good. One day he told me he loved me. This September I went to see him and spent two weeks with him.

I had a magical time with him. He was so romantic and attentive. We both cried our eyes out on the airport. I truly felt like he was the man for me.

So, about a week after my vacation I'm on Facebook and I see a woman's profile photo – it's of the two of them. She flew in from her country and spent a week with him. She had an entire blog devoted to their relationship and she posted many photos of the two of them. She called him her prince charming. She left the day I flew in - they had only communicated online before this. She is from Indonesia, a Muslim, younger than he is and a virgin. I am none of these things.

I lost it and sent him a dozen emails asking what was going on. I was really hurt, angry and upset. He didn't contact me for three days. When he did, he denied anything happened with her. He said she was there on business and it wasn't his fault she had feelings for him. He said I should have trusted him and ignored what this girl wrote. He didn't even acknowledge why I was upset. I never heard from him again.

Anyway, I was friendly with a woman who was his best friend. They had a falling out but I never knew why and after they stopped talking, she and I stopped communicating. I wrote to her when this happened. She said he told her her loved her and wanted to marry her. She stayed with his family for two months in his country. She leaves thinking this is the beginning of her life with him ... SHE NEVER HEARS FROM HIM AGAIN!!!!

She was happy to hear from me because she blamed herself. So here we are two women who loved the same man helping each other. There are so many questions I can'answer. He never asked for money or even tried to marry us for a green card. What was he after?

I tried to warn the Muslim woman about him. She responded by telling me she wanted to kill me.

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