Marriage in the Mid East

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Dec 18, 2011 at 18:32

You are right Sandy. Marriage and matters of the heart are controlled by the family in most middle eastern cultures. Your Turkish man will eventually not have much say in who he marries. The wife will be chosen by his family for the following reasons -

1. to enhance the family's standing in the village

2. that she comes from a good family

3. is a good Muslim

5. is a virgin and has been circumcised

4. is a hard worker (she will be enslaved to her husband's family)

5. her ability to care for her husband (cooking & cleaning skills)

6. that she is strong and healthy and can breed many sons

I can't see many western women going through that process to gain marriage. Of course, the woman's family has the right to refuse the request but this is no often the case.

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