All of those planning to marry an egyptian - you wont listen - but you will wish you did

Submitted by Sophie (United Kingdom), Mar 17, 2012 at 16:55

I know that this post will fall on a lot of deaf ears for those planning to marry an egyptian. But think to yourselves, what are you doing on this site if you are not a bit nervous in the first place?? It fell on my deaf ears - I came on here years and years ago, I looked at other sites - I never listened and I still bear the scars now.

I met my Egyptian husband 10 years ago, he was wonderful, very attractive, so funny, so kind, so jealous which I found endearing ( much to my mistake), so mysterious. I met him whilst I was on holiday in Egypt, 2 years later after many many holidays I decided to move there to live forever with my perfect gentleman. Before I moved there he told me he had multiple businesses, a car, boats, flats - all of which he took me to. Once I moved there reality set in - he lived in a dirty village in a dirty flat above his father's home, the businesses were all lies, I was the one who was expected to make the money in order to feed us,

I did this by teaching, the wage was very low but still I loved him, he told lies about the businesses that he had once showed me, he said he had once owned them but his father had stolen them off him ( all lies). We lived hand to mouth, sometimes I went without food although he always managed to come up with money for his cigarettes and hashish. Once I had been there a year or so the emotional abuse set in - he brain washed me, I now realise this since getting away from him, I could no longer make eye contact with other men, nor was i allowed to talk to men, I couldn't go out unless I had my husband's permission ( and 9 out of 10 times it would be a no), I wasn't allowed to talk to other english people, I was constantly called fat ( which I began to believe although i was only 7 stone) .

then i got pregnant, this was my light at the end of a very dark tunnel, this is what we had always dreamed of and I honestly thought he would change - in his mind he had gained more power over me, he really did turn into a monster. When I first happily told him that I was pregnant he left me, his family made him return after a few months, he bullied me constantly, he sat there and laughed as he made me move heavy furniture so get out babies nursery ready, once he grabbed me round the throat when I told him that I didn't have the money to bring him to the UK for the birth, he slapped me on many many occasions - the whole 9 months was a nightmare. I had my baby in the UK, I was so scared about being alone but once my baby was placed into my arms I knew that I had to escape that brute - I did take the baby there a few times but his violence was so bad that I haven't been there in 9 months, still I get constant texts telling me what a bad person I am, he seems to think that he can do no wrong. I was at such a low time in my life when I was living in egypt - luckily my beautiful baby has given me strength again.

After a number of years of living in egypt and after meeting many western women married to egyptian men I can honestly say that i have NEVER met a woman that is in a happy relationship ... I have only briefly outlined my experience here but I lived in a nightmare - I contemplated suicide so many times, some of you may be saying why didn't I just leave? - Egyptian men don't let you just leave, once they know they have gone too far they put you on a guilt trip, they tip you over the edge, they know every button to press. You cant just leave an egyptian man - their families are all in on it, their friends are - get out while you still can

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