Re: Red flags indeed by sara

Submitted by Nourshehane (United States), Feb 13, 2013 at 12:02

Hi Sara,

first thank you so much for your response. Believe me, I am wrought with suspicion over a number of things, not least of all his behavior and propensity to whine about "how bad it is here in the US and how he is treated like a slave working 11 hours a day" (it's endless! and I tire of hearing it!) I just want to clarify that he's not exactly a 'world away' as he lives here in the United States, in New Jersey to be exact (which is right where I live). He's mentioned several times about wanting to meet up, so I assume he's not lying about who he is or what he looks like. He's sent me several pictures via text & we are friends on facebook, so it's not as though he is some complete unknown back in his home country of Morocco. That said, I am in no way defending him or ignoring the red flags. Believe me, I am feeling so torn after nearly a month of being in contact with him, and hearing his romantic sweet nothings over the phone, and how he claims to love me.

I am fully aware that my attachment is probably based on my idea of him & what little information I have to go on. In this respect, it is easier to fantasize and believe the best (as is wont), rather than the worst. But my gut instinct keeps telling me there is something wrong.

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