Moroccan Man, On-line dating in USA

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 18, 2013 at 18:54

If you meet someone on-line who lives relatively close-by and they are hesitant to meet you in person, it's a sign for you to move on. I've had similar situations happen to me where a woman I met on-line would act all excited about me coming down and then never follow through.

The excuses can be quite amusing. One woman even told me she was "too tired" to talk one night and nearest I could figure, she was talking to an ex-boyfriend in another state.

If you're going to venture in the realm of on-line dating, this is the kind of nonsense you could easily encounter, and it works best when you simply don't tolerate it.

In such cases, I wanted answers as well and spent more time than I should have trying to get them, but it really never seems to be quite satisfactory.

At this point, Nourshehane, his reasons aren't even relevant. If he's too afraid to meet with someone, he shouldn't be doing on-line dating.

That is one plausible explanation; however, consider me a fan of the theory that something else is going on.

I understand there's a world of possibilities when it comes to setting up accounts on facebook or any other social networking site, and his FB situation is truly a strange one. First of all, he doesn't have his real name on his profile- it's Keep Moving. could there be truth in advertising?

Oh yes. I can see people choosing such names without even fully realizing it since they are catchy and give them a bounce.

Secondly, he had his friends list hidden, and i told him i found this suspicious. He said i was 'very smart to ask why'

Yeah…just like someone saying "well, that's a good question" while they stall for a response?

There's another red flag.

and then claimed it was because his male friends had sent rude messages or cursed at his female friends from school.

I'm not sure I'd by that as it is, certainly not as the whole truth anyway. That kind of drama can and does happen and trust me, it's a complete waste of time. Authorities in this country are even cracking down on cyberbulling, especially in schools.

Somehow that just doesn't sound right. And even if it were true, who the heck does he hang out with?

When i cut him off b/c of too many red flags, he finally caved and showed me his friends list. But it wasn't until at least a week after i made the complaint. So it's possible he had time to move people around (possibly to another profile) and/or delete anyone he didn't want me seeing. Why not just be transparent right away?

It's very unusual especially since men don't usually have the same regard for privacy as women. I think he is either hiding something from you or he just doesn't consider you a priority.

When i saw the friends list, it looked suspiciously ordinary- only 73 people- but i will say a fair amount were female. probably more than half, and many didn't have real pictures up. Lots of Muslim girls had just illustrations of women in hijab, or butterflies or cute babies. Aside from that, no one was unusually attractive. He did have a European model or two tho. Hmm.

The thing about men with profiles that are dominated with women is those women may be apt to add just about anyone.

I really think you can do better than what he's giving you, which isn't much at all.

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