Update on my young Egyptian boyfriend

Submitted by Cindy (Canada), May 10, 2013 at 03:40

Thank you so much for this email! Your words are starting to break this plexiglass barrier in front of me that nobody, not even my dear Father could break and get through to me, and he too lived in Egypt for two months and knows of these types of things. Its like I am in a trance, blindly following and only listening to my Egyptian boyfriend. Even though something inside of me is saying my God Cindy, what are you doing??? I cannot stop myself. He reels me in every single day closer and closer.

Now he told me that he doesn't want to leave Egypt, he wants me to go there instead, first it was for a year, then it was for a month, now it is for two weeks. He wants to have sex with me and then I probably won't hear from him again. He told me I am in charge of his life now, I call the shots on his destiny. Do I think a Muslim man would kill himself over me, a Western woman twice his age?? NO WAY!! After all, he wont get to Paradise if he does that!

And then he told me that he has been promoted to manager of a place he has only worked at for two weeks now. Let me guess, now he won't be able to come over here to Cananda, even if he does get approved, because he is now an important manager? Lets see now in crystal ball what will happen here: Oh and then it will be that he has to move to Cairo to work there, and will have to move there? And I should come out there to be with him soon, what to set him up in a flat, pay for it, "marry" him and then end up having to give him half of my assets?

I am broken hearted, but I never gave him my full heart anyhow, I held back, because of that sick feeling deep inside that was screaming at me to stop please stop. You will be so happy for me, as I have gone on some dating websites and have been offered dates from about 8 different men in my own country, my own town, and yes some of them are rich! And I have accepted some of them! Yes, once I get out and have some dates and then pick which one I truly connect with, then I will be able to totally let go of Mr. Egypt for good! And oh, what a feeling that will be. And never, ever again will I fall for such a lie, such a scam! I need my life back, I need my sanity back.

My son took me aside yesterday and said to me:"Mom, remember years ago in elementary school my good friend's Mom passed away? I said yes I remember. He said Mom, she killed herself over a man from Saudi Arabia who was scamming her. It got to the point where she lived on her computer, gained a bunch of weight, and gave this scum bag almost every dime of her money. Her son came home and found her slumped over her computer, dead. And right there on facebook, was a message from this scum bag saying: Did you send me the money yet? He wrote back to him, no dirt bag, she can't because she is dead!

I cried my eyes out, because I have felt like there was no way out of this with him. As he is threatening that he will die without me there, and I am so afraid he will do it. He keeps saying a promise is a promise Cindy, remember that. After what my son said to me yesterday, I got an eye opener. I have begged God to please save me from myself, before it is too late, and it has kicked into high gear now. He is trying to save me with all his might. And, the glass is almost shattered. Just a little bit more, and I am free! I do feel God directed me to this forum, because he knows that everything else is just not working. This young Egyptian man is like a drug, and I am addicted and it won't let me go.

But now, I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for helping me to see that this is a big mistake that I will make. And every email on here I have read already. And I will continue to until I finally can run free. :)

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