Egyptian love.....

Submitted by anonymous woman (United States), Aug 19, 2015 at 09:59

Here is the situation. I am a 31 year old divorcee with one kid, he is a 24 year old virgin. We both have strong faith and piousness. He originally was going to try and get a travel visa and visit me, but this is proving rather impossible so plans have changed to me visiting him with his financial assistance on this. He has done things like deactivating facebook for me (long story). He says his family knows of me and I will meet them. Says he loves me and wants to marry me our first visit if I am okay with this, if not he understands. He is almost done with his college to be an engineer so he will have a respectable career and financial path. Very intelligent, we enjoy the same hobbies, he is the one that advised me to google egyptian men and read the horror stories and told me to take my time and express all of my fears.

At one point told me that in all honesty if his goal was visa/money, their are plenty of easy tourists in his country and it would not be hard for him to get one. He is exceptionally good looking, I know many women say this but he is a gorgeous Arabic man with stunning blue eyes...he could probably charm the pants off of many women. So on one hand I recognize that he could be a master manipulator and his looks do help, on the other I recognize that he could pick a lot easier women to go after and women with lots of money that can easily afford to travel. I can't easily afford this.....he knows I don't make a lot, I make enough to take care of my family but not so much for anything beyond that. We met online on a fan page for a television show we are both major fans of, our first conversation was a debate actually, we went back and forth for awhile about government/politics/media, it was a rather fun intellectual debate and in the end we both agreed that we learned something and our friendship blossomed after that. Our intimacy and feelings developed along the way. He owns a small flat in Egypt and showed me pictures and is telling me how this is our flat when we are in egypt and we will decorate it together, showed me the conditions of egypt that you dont see normally on the media, tells me all about the hardships their and the beauty. Shows me family pictures, talks about having kids with me (he is adamant he wants to have children with me and grow a large family which I am fine with).

I won't say he is perfect because he isn't, he can be moody....when this happens he becomes quiet and introverted and he has told me that he can get jealous sometimes and be protective. He often stays up till 6am talking to me, we will talk for hours and the conversations are easy.......we can just talk and talk and talk, the connection feels real. If he is an actor then he is very committed. I know it could be a game, or it could be real. If it is real....OMG...he makes me so happy, but if it is a game....I will be so hurt. I keep myself somewhat guarded, because I am weary.... I have read horror stories AND stories of happiness, mostly horror stories. Can you think of any good tests maybe? As for staying in egypt....i lightly entertained that at one point even though I didn't mean it and he was okay with it and said I already own a flat even though I never use it (you can tell.....it looks like no one is ever inside lol he stays with his family usually ), then said we can buy a larger flat if this is too small for you

. So if I wanted to move their truly....he is okay with this and tells me how he loves his country despite the corruption , but I don't want to move their because I dont want my child growing up their. He is worried about living in the U.S if that happened, he is scared he could not do well career wise because his specific engineering area is not huge here, it is larger in other countries (marine engineer), but we have talked about how to make it work and all that and where there are opportunities for it here. I love him....I do...that ship has sailed already. I trust him. I still feel it is best since I am a mom that I test him. Any ideas?

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