be careful

Submitted by imadeitoutalive (United States), Apr 11, 2016 at 22:51

Hi, these poor Middle Eastern guys troll the internet looking for cash cows, sugar mammas and visas. They will wear a mask in the beginning and tell you everything you ever dreamed of hearing. They love-bomb you with all manner of flattery and proclamations of love. It is all a lie.

I was with an Egyptian engineer gor 5 years. I met him while I was on a tour in Egypt. I am 15 years older. We met in a coffeehouse in Cairo and talked for hours. I ended up back in his flat and we made passionate love for 10 days. He would go buy takeaways and cook. He treated me like a queen and I was convinced I had found my soul mate. He asked me to marry him and I said I would think about it. I thought he was not with me for a visa or money because he had his own flat and was a PHD and made a good salary working for a chemical company as chief chemist. His family also owned 3 buildings and all were highly educated. I ended up going back to California after a few weeks of nonstop passion, romance and the best sex of my life.

He was sobbing in the airport as I left. I felt so sorry for him. When I got home there were 50 emails from him. Mostly one liners about how I was his one true love, the perfect woman, his soul mate and his reason for existing. I felt like the luckiest woman on earth to find such a intelligent handsome guy. We skyped and emailed for hours. He begged me to return to Egypt threatening to commit suicide because he could not live without me. A month later I was back in Cairo. He met me at the airport with flowers. He took 2 2 weeks off and we stayed in his flat making love. He constantly talked about marriage. Bringing it up 4 or 5 times a day. I still did not agree. He told me his family wanted to meet me.

When I went to his home I was greeted with open arms. The entire family was so kind. His mother and sisters made a huge feast and we all sat on cushions outside in the garden. I was seated next to his father, a lawyer of about 60. About half way through the meal he started asking me if I owned a home, what was in my bank account and what kind of car I owned. I hesitantly answered thinking perhaps Egyptian parents needed to know this type of information. After the meal the entire family was asking questions about my finances. I felt like they were interrogating me and I became very uncomfortable. As we were leaving I couldn't find my iPhone.

The entire family searched but no luck and his mother said I probably left it in the car. When we got to the flat my credit cards and half of my cash was missing. I freaked out and called my credit card company. I was told the cards had been used to purchase gold jewelry in the same city his family lives. I was outraged and confused. These were educated, upper middle class people. He spent all night convincing me a neighbor had come in while we were eating and stole the cash and cards. I believed him.

We ended up getting married 3 months later. At his suggestion I sold my house and car and we used the money to buy a house next to his parents. From that point on my life was a unrelenting hell. He became enraged if I left our home to even go out on the balcony. He started smoking like a chimney and didn't allow me to open the window. Every time I turned around my clothes or shoes went missing. My iPhone turned up in his fathers car but the crafty old man claimed his son-in-law bought it for him.

After four years of marriage I ended up gaining 50 pounds from being locked in a apartment, he knocked out 2 of my front teeth in a argument, my hair started thing due to an undiagnosed thyroid problem. He refused to take me to the doctor stating he couldn't handle a doctor seeing my body. I told him I would go to a woman physician but he refused. His younger brother was always coming over when he was gone at work and sexually harassing me. When I complained my husband accused me of dressing provocatively. By this time my wardrobe consisted of faded old caftans his mother made for me out of discarded fabric. I only own one pair of cheap flipflops. All my designer shoes and clothes were long gone. I became a shell of myself. His constant verbal abuse had worn me to a nub.

He would spend all his time chatting with young ladies on Facebook and Skype. I also learned he was into men when I caught him hooking up with a guy on Skype. He also had a grinder app on his phone for meeting men.

After almost 4 years of hell he announced his family had arranged for him to marry a 19 year old girl from a good family. He gave me 24 hours to vacate our home. Everything was in his name his father saw to that. I found myself roaming the streets of Cairo with approximately 400 egyptian pounds to my name and a old flip phone. I felt shell shocked.

I found an internet cafe and begged my sister to send me a ticket home. I am currently renting a room and working in a convenience store, taking the bus to and from work. My house, car and self esteem are gone. To women considering a relationship with one of these guys it could possibly destroy your entire life. Most of what these men say are lies to get what they want and when they get what they want the mask will come off and you will not recognize the monster you are married to.

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