The problem

Submitted by Evian (United Kingdom), Oct 29, 2016 at 11:22

Hi girls,

I have been reading on this website a lot. Reason being for my sins I got into a relationship with an Egyptian man. I don't really want to go into the details of my relationship but I want to give my 2 cents. Basically I am a British Pakistani Muslim and I somehow against my better judgement had an online/long distance relationship with an Egyptian man.

I want to share my thoughts/opinion about the problem with these types of relationships from what I have picked up myself.

The first issue being the online/long distance - it doesn't really work for a number of reasons. Especially if you meet the person online and haven't had that first initial meeting for years. This excludes every other factor. It doesn't matter if you are young, pretty, educated, rich, funny etc Because there are a lot of other girls that are like that who are right there next to him. So cross that off your list. Only couples who meet in their life and then have distance have a real chance of surviving.

The next issue and I think it is a very very important one. Western morals and principles are MAJORLY different than eastern morals and principles. A lot of these men just do not think and function in a morally correct or have any real core values and principles. Their day to day activity is corrupt from the minute they wake up until the minute they hit the sack and it even doesn't matter about the relationship of the person because these men could sell their own mother - so who are you?
Someone who has never had contact with these type of people could never pick up on how they just do not have basic principles. I have family in that part of the world and when I go 'back home' to these countries I cannot fathom at how easily they can sell their own soul for their own greed.

Another very important point is. Their relationship strategy. It is ridiculously bizzare. They feel commitment is through words and telling a girl in the first 5 minutes of meeting/talking to her that they love her shows their commitment to her. This falls in with the second point. They don't really have any moral code so just do/say as they please without regard of the others feelings. They are the most dangerous of men. They screw with your mind and make you commit to them but will never ever commit to you. That's just how they play.

The last and final point I want to make is. They really are not worth putting yourself through that horrible horrible emotional rollercoaster. Even when heir feelings are genuine and they love you they just don not know how to appreciate women and how to take good care of them. I do not say all men there are like this but I can say MOST of the men do have these traits in default and are most likely to treat you less than your worth.

You might ask me why I am bitter or why did I take the time to post this. I did meet an Egyptian man online (not looking I was bored and started talking to him) I continued to live my life though and didn't have a relationship with him until 4 years later. He loved me, but he just did not know how to treat me as I deserved. He couldn't treat me to the level of standard I want or need and so I can't commit to him. I know there is a man out there who can give me better so I will look for him. I am not interested in cheap talk, immaturity and lack of responsibility.

You tend to find a lot of these men really cannot handle a western women with good morals and principles. The more longer you linger the worse it becomes. There are some relationships where the men are amazing but there are wry few of these. But you need to really get to know him before you can commit and who has time to do all that long distance and the money to travel to find out? Instead of putting all that effort abroad I am sure there are men in your own country who could make you happy and love you in the way in which you need to be.

My only regret is taking my friendship to the next level and putting that time and effort in getting to know him. He really does not know my worth and I am not going to sit around here waiting to show him. I love this man but I do love myself more. It's unfortunate that a lot of the girls on this website fall in love first and then only after find out about the person they have fallen in love with.

Xx

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