Some of you need to wake up

Submitted by Luhx, Jan 9, 2017 at 15:22

• If there is a huge age difference, you are probably being used. I say probably because anything is possible but let's say there is a 95% chance you are being scammed.
• If he asks you for ANY money at all, you are being scammed.
• If he has "another wife and kids" and still supports her or any other red flags that you would not tolerate from a man from your own country - You are being scammed. Child support yes. Support wife? No.
• If he claims to be a "devout" Muslim but wants to screw you or have sexual talks/relations with you even online BEFORE marriage - He isn't a DEVOUT Muslim. Remind him of his own religious teachings and see what he says. There are many Muslim men who will mess around before marriage (my husband was one) but when he met me, he kept me PURE. No kissing, no sex talk, no phone sex while separated until AFTER marriage.
• If he won't introduce you to his family, his parents or tell them about you if you are in different countries then I'd be pretty concerned. I'm not saying it's a reason to completely end it but you should highly question WHY. No real Muslim man would ever give up his FAMILY for a woman. If the family cannot accept her and he is a devout Muslim man - then you are out, honey.
• If you meet him online and in a couple days he is in love with you.... I mean, seriously. Should I even have to say this?
• If the guy you are talking to is doing things you would never accept from an average guy in your own country - WHY ARE YOU ACCEPTING JUST BECAUSE THIS DUDE IS FROM SOMEWHERE ELSE?

Most of you out here are literally just clueless about dating in general? Or maybe you assume that him being from a different country means things can be TOTALLY different than your normal ideals, morals and values...and expectations?

Seriously, give your heads a shake. I am not saying you are all in hopeless situations, or that all Muslim men are bad, I married a great one. But some of this stuff is literally like grade one of dating.

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