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Submitted by Cynthia (United States), Apr 20, 2017 at 06:59

Hi there

I am a sucessfull business woman, I own two companies and I am single. I am well educated and friends consider me as a level headed strong individual, I live in an EU country.

Despite all this I have been fooled like a small girl by an Algerian.

I was in a relationship with an Algerian from Oran, his name was Fethi. Business man and somebody who appeared loving and kind and very very romantic. We met via Facebook, he found me and from that day he was bombarding me with romantic messages and compliments , I was a bit afraid hearing negative stories about Muslims....but within 1 week he has worked his way to my heart whatever I wanted or not!

I was hungry for love and his magic worked on me, the contact was great he had shown me so much love and admiration I was so happy and could not stop smiling, I have never experienced this with any man from North Europe. During that first week he has told me he loves me and he has found his future wife! When asked why are you not married until now? I was told " this is my destiny, I was waiting for you to come into my life".

Within 2 months he asked to marry me which I was a bit sceptical about. I was asked to start arranging Schengen visa for him. He pushed to get that visa sorted, I was asked about my economic situation and other practical things, when asked about his economical situation I was told to not worry he has money for us both......But looking at the photos I have got from him, looking at a very poor room interiour, crashed walls and overal cheap finish to the walls and windows I knew he is not telling the truth.

I started to put together 2 and 2 , and started to think, it did not made sense to be told after 1 week he loves me, I am the love of his life and to ask for my hand so quickly and start to plan the wedding, warning lamps went on and I said I want to wait we must get to know each other better. Ok no problem I was told , he will wait for me , he is sure I am the one! The contact was still good and romance was flowing but not as before, I got 2 messages per day and that was it.

On Facebook I noticed he pressed "like" on women from Western countries, women of similar background to my own, who had their own business or seem to be quite well off. Following my gut instinct I contacted 1 lady asking about her connection to Fethi? And imagine the shock I have got when I was told she is in love with my Fethi, they plan to get married and she is the one for him. I could not belive my eyes, I kept reading her message time after time I was in deep shock, I felt betrayed , hurt and lied to. The trust was gone.

That lady photographed his messages via her mobile phone and sent to me, the truth was there all black on white infront of me, he even used same words to both of us, same love declarations and making of future plans. Even same romantic photos sent via private messages, I felt sick to my stomach ...

I then contacted other ladies he had pressed "like" frequently on and brace yourself: 18 women from the USA, Canada, France, UK, Sweden, Poland , Russia, Ukraine, Belgium, Germany and Holland all responded quite shocked, telling me they are in a loving relationship with MY FETHI.

During the time when he was so busy with other ladies he blocked me on Facebook chat - in my window he appreared offline while he was online all the time romancing others. When asked why he is offline nowadays during so many days I was told the internet is broken, that was his standard excuse.

But, comparing messages with the other ladies, I saw that during the time his "internet was broken," he was on Facebook romancing and flirting with other women, inviting them to visit Oran and stay in his house with him - because she was the one, the special one he wanted to marry and have children with.....

When I confronted him regarding these ladies, he of course denied everything, and lied, saying: "They are just Facebook friends. It is you who are my future wife, it is you I love, the others are nothing comparing to you" Don't trust them Omri (darling) they are trying to destroy our relationship! Block them! They are evil, block them, Omri".

I am in solidarity with the other ladies and have taken a print screen of his conversation with me, which I sent to them. They were all shocked too and all felt betrayed. Many of them decided to block him on Facebook.

He used to call himself Fethi Oran on fb. This man is after EU passport as so many other Algerians. Ladies out there: please be careful, Algerians are very good at flirting and getting into your heart, for them to flirt even when in a relationship is like a sport, they enjoy it very much and are masters in this area. They will lie and cheat on you. For example, Fethi told me he was born on 1.04.1971; to other ladies he said his dob was 25.04.1971 and one was told 17.04.1971.

One year later, I am still hurt and felt betrayed and humilated, he betrayed my trust, love and friendship and loyalty I have offered to him.

Love and light.

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