Don't date a muslim guy

Submitted by Catholic girl dated a Moroccan, Apr 28, 2017 at 03:38

I dated a moroccan guy for 4 years and had lived together for 3 years. i met him at the club. we had the same interests, lifestyle, we clicked and fell in love. we were perfect as a couple. im filipino and catholic. we never thought, or me at least, first time dating a muslim guy- never thought religion would be an issue getting married and raising kids.

He just graduated from college, he's 23 and i'm 26. were already planning our future together- until one day he told his parents about "this christian girl who i met etc etc"- his parents are both in morocco and didnt know anything about us, living together etc. his mom said no, that he can't ever marry me. we were SHATTERED - instantly- never have seen this coming... he cant ever disobey his parents.. it's his RELIGION. his parents. his culture. he will NEVER ever disobey them. he cant do it. he tried to "fight" for me but trying to talk to them about me converting to Islam, but they still won't allow it.

i feel like this black bubble of culture and religion is so ingrained in them and i guess something I will never understand, like he says to me. i honestly thought everything was so perfect between us. but when it all came down to this reality...it slapped me so hard in the face. it hurts like hell- you love the person so much, and this happened. I believe that love has no boundaries, i gave this relationship my all and now im hurting because of this.

i feel like i was a victim, i dont hate him as a person, i care about him a lot and he treated me like i was everything to him but our situation has no way around it unless i convert to Islam, but still have no assurance if we'll end up together or will he fight for me when that time comes? after i changed my whole life for him? im writing this because i dont want other women to go through the same thing im going through right now, dont fall into this cancer-like culture that will only hurt you, crush you into pieces in the end.

if you're catholic/christian/NON-muslim, don't ever date a muslim. their family ties are so different, the culture is something out of this world. we live in north america but they will always have their culture in them. there are some lucky ones who stood up for their love and religion/converting didnt matter but in my case unfortunately we just had to end it. splitting after years of living together hurts so much especially when you werent expecting it and was just victimized by their culture. Just dont do it. don't.

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