Reply to Lorna

Submitted by Sheila, Oct 8, 2018 at 11:03

Hi Lorna, I apologize for how I sound in my first comment to you today. I did mean what I told you , I should have said it in a different way. I'm at work but I'm worried about you. I get angry about how these men get over on western women. They call us desperate. I've heard them say it. When in fact though they are the ones desperate. You were calling off things you are paying for when you go. Does he deserve any of this Lorna? Ask yourself do you really believe this man loves you? If you do, why would you have ever came to this forum and talk to us? Down deep inside you really know. You said you don't have anyone to talk to. You can talk to any of us. We do feel and have felt exactly like you. You are strong. Since you feel you're not. You tell yourself you're strong because you are. It takes time to get past what has been done to you. It's not going to happen quick. I wish we could get through to you as well as he does. I know the weapon he's using though. Having us here on the forum Lorna is really great because the difference between us and someone else or even a counselor is that we have actually been where you are. We are experienced hands on with this situation. You have to cut off and I mean cut off ALL contact with him. That's the only way you will reach the point of getting past all this. He doesn't care what he does to you or how bad you get hurt. They don't know "love" in the way westerners do. Most of the time they marry people they're not in love with. What he is doing to you is criminal. It is against the law in western countries. I know you would love to think you are an exception. I'm 99.5% sure you're not. All the red flags are there. It's the same evidence as most of these stories on here. There's men on this forum who can tell you what all the women have. That's a point of view from a man. Bazoonga and sometime Luigi is on here. Post asking for their feedback and I'm sure you'll hear from them. Most men (muslin men especially) do not marry women older than them unless it's for financial gain, a shot at a better life. When these foreign men get that life they're done with you and will marry a younger woman. Most likely one of their own. You can question him on all this and he will not admit to any of it in one million years. Questioning them also alerts them they have to play this charade much better so their victim doesn't catch on to what's really going on. Lorna don't go to him and marry him. Don't go at all. Give yourself time to get over him. We will gladly help you. We are here for you. Block him in every way possible. Stop all contact. Trust me? I do know because I've been where you are now. I felt like death but then I started thinking more on what he did to hurt me then any of the good. He was terrible once I woke up and realized. I'm 40 years old and I'm not sure but I may be one of the younger women on here this has been done to. We have had much younger women than me on here who were being used by one of these RATS. Some were beaten even while pregnant. They lost them to a woman from his country in just about every case. Some of the men just left once they got their green card. I think you know any of us here will talk to you. It's a mistake to go. There's been times people were held captive (against their will) . Don't chance this happening. You're definitely not thinking clear. It's so dangerous. You are even going without telling anyone close to you. I truly wish you would not go and stop talking to him. I'm praying for you to find the strength within you to let him go before it's too late. Many prayers to you! Much love your way. None of us have spoken to on a phone or in person to you from this forum but I bet we care much much more about your well being than he does or ever did!

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