Thank you Siobhan

Submitted by Becca, Apr 23, 2019 at 19:27

Thank you Siobhan!

Well, I've realised a lot of things about many different people, cultures and religions and if I'm honest with you, if you don't see interfaith marriages in your country or even Muslim men in relationships with non-Muslim women, it's very unlikely to be genuine if you meet one online. I'm talking close to 0%. Islam isn't just a religion it's a religion governed by cultural beliefs and it heavily dominates the people. The men are heavily socialised and controlled by their parents and siblings so a lot of decisions that they make have had support from them!

I've studied interfaith marriages for my dissertation and I can pretty much say that it's non existent in the U.K. It's only considered in countries like those because the desperation for a better life haunts the people there. Of course it's not your fault, absolutely it isn't because if you would have known I guarantee you wouldn't have even gave those men the time of day to speak to you online let alone visit their country. But just remember that you equally deserve the same amount of happiness and you can get that from someone who lives in your country! Also remember this: people that go on online dating websites in one way or another have something wrong with them. They could be deprived of something and are looking to gain it through using someone, they could have mental health issues, they could have many insecurities or they could simply be lonely and want to find true love but are scared to put themselves out there in the real world because they may lack confidence. I have never met anyone who has had a successful online relationship in general because the person either turns out to be too controlling, manipulative, possessive, insecure, jealous etc. These traits are terrible! I'm not speaking for all but I think most people go online because they are consciously aware that they have issues with themselves but they are afraid to address those issues. Addressing them can easily start with loving yourself, getting to know yourself more as a person, investigating what you like and love and this way you'll be able to identify what you NEED! Don't put your trust in others to give that to you because only you can do that. I really hope I have helped you and remember you are beautiful and the things that happened to you wasn't your fault! The truth is love makes the world go around and if we all had even a taste of true genuine love, we wouldn't be vulnerable to situations like these. The world is a cold place, people love less, people are self seeking which leads to selfishness, people look to gain and not to give so it's hard to find the genuine people that can give you what you need. But change comes from within, once you change your outlook on yourself you will naturally attract people to you who think and act the same these are the people you need to surround yourself with! I know we haven't met but I love you and take care of yourself Siobhan. :) xx

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