HELP! Engaged to a Moroccan

Submitted by Didi (Morocco), May 30, 2019 at 14:53

Thank you to all who have replied. I have been communicating with my friends and family for advice as well. Of course I don't go into all of it, but they know the gyst of the situation and have been looking up more about the scams these men run also.

I am definitely keeping my baby.. I want this baby and I don't want anything to happen to my baby. But if he's just scamming and wants a green card, I doubt he'd be too interested in this baby anyway.. right?

The problem is, I'm already in Europe and we live together. I have mentioned a couple times of going to the US for a visit alone bc he can't come and he said it was out of the question. He's extremely insecure bc he says he knows he doesn't deserve me and he's afraid of losing me. I don't go out alone, I'm always with him or his brother. So any escape will have to have a devised plan. Maybe he'll lose his temper and leave, then I just won't take him back.

He has stopped the physical abuse since the big fight where I hit him back. He apologized many times and said he knew that was not how he was supposed to be, blamed it on stress and seeing this from his father. He says he's"changed." I can tell the family and friends are against our relationship. Once he found out about the baby, he decided we needed to move away from all family and friends to have a "peaceful life" without any interference or judgements bc now our family was his top priority. My Mom thinks this is either him hiding the baby from the haters or him wanting to break free from the culture. Either way, I don't know what to do. But I wanted advice from those who have been there. My mom of course gave me the "I told you so speech" but did say to make think hard about the long term outcome of all possible choices and allow GOD to lead.

After reading the horror stories, I realized I need to make some changes fast. What's so crazy is that every woman I met in Morocco, even strangers, talk about how great Islam is, how great the men are, and were quite welcoming. Am I missing something?

Thanks again to all who replied. I need to figure out what I'm going to do..

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