Emotional manipulation of the vulnerable.

Submitted by Chelsea, Jul 30, 2019 at 15:54

This is common among these men. They play games with your mind. They seduce you with words. You are in a vulnerable state right now because of your loss and that is understandable. Never look at words ... always actions.

They do this manipulation yo-yo to keep you hooked and want them more because of all the things they have said to seduce you. Don't fall for it. You already have been through alot in life. Time for you to really take good care of yourself. Give yourself some time to accept your loss and I am very sorry to hear you lost your husband.

Online dating or overseas dating is really not a good thing. You never really know what is on the other side of that screen. Give yourself time to heal. These guys are masters at knowing just what to say when you are in a vulnerable state. They may be good looking but that won't matter once they have taken you over in your mind and you start to go overseas, thus endangering yourself and by the way they don't care.

I would highly recommend that you back away from this and focus on your healing. These guys really want to get to the USA and actually are romancing that green card. With all the problems with immigration here in the US...it would not be advisable for you to get involved with that stress. It could take years off of your life.

I would not recommend travel at this time. It is too dangerous. Give yourself some time.

I know because I was where you are in life and went through a terrible experience. It took 2 years of my life. I wish I had found this site before I was seduced by beautiful words. You came for help and you are in the right place. No judgment from us because we have been there.

Don't let your emotions be manipulated. Take care of you. You are valuable and in time, after you begin to heal, you will be able to make wiser decisions. This is just human...at times we experience great loss and at those times we are vulnerable to things that we would not normally consider. You need time.

Welcome to the forum. Be blessed.

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