I'm Sorry, Lou

Submitted by Robin (United States), Aug 19, 2019 at 15:41

Lou, I know from my own experience why you have continued to go back to him. These men use the same brainwashing techniques as cult leaders. I'm sure he has you convinced you will never do better than him. My husband acted like I should feel lucky to have him, when it should have been the other way around! I really don't understand what makes them feel so entitled to treating women, especially Western women, badly, but you definitely don't deserve this. It will be difficult, but you must put your feelings aside and think logically. You have been manipulated, and will continue to be manipulated unless you cut off all contact with him, his family, and any friends he may have. I escaped my husband almost five months ago, and it is still difficult, but I'm getting stronger. I refuse to contact him or even see what he is doing on social media, and have blocked him, his family and one of his friends (the only one I occasionally had contact with). Even my husband's friend, knowing what he had been doing to me, tried to make me feel like it was my fault, and no big deal. Luckily, all of them live in a different country from me, and are unlikely to ever be able to come to mine. You have to prepare yourself for it being difficult to leave, and then to stick with no contact. Can you find a mental health professional to help?

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