The interview, Lina... wow

Submitted by Keira (Australia), Aug 29, 2019 at 15:05

Thank you for sharing this. I cannot explain how I feel after reading it... This part:

"I'm not abusing them, they want what I'm offering and they pay for it. These women are just desperate and I make their dreams come true".

And it's not haram because we women also get profit of it??? C'mon!!!

Definitely, he explains very clear why there's no remorse. In my case, it was different because I met him here like any other relationship, so I always was in doubt about if it could be real. He was the one who was pursuing me at the beginning during months, Lina. I had doubts and I should listen to my instinct, because something smelled wrong and I couldn't understand why so much insistence. Also, was him who showered me with very pricey gifts. Even I was still receiving them until the end. In the last months, he used them to make me feel guilty and come back to him. My man was well off, and he came here to settle. He even didn't need to work very hard because his family provided him with the money he needed. But the only thing he could not buy was his permanency. He tried to convince me to accept his sicky proposals, so I could look "suitable" to his parents. I am not much older than him, but in his own words, not even a year older would be acceptable in there. Whenever he blamed me for making him losing his precious time, I asked him why he picked me knowing that I didn't gather not even one of the requisites to be his wife. He never replied me until last time I asked him again to respond. He said because he always thought I would accept one or another option. And believe me, my options would have made my life miserable. And he always knew my reply. So, I think he believed that his brainwashing techniques would work at some point.

When we talked about how all started he said because he clearly saw that I was desperate to be loved. That I needed him. So I am afraid that this is what they mostly need to see. They give you your own version of what love is because they get deep enough into your mind, they pamper you with treats, they try to cover all the flaws that your ex had to make you feel you found what you were looking for.

And yes, all his proposals entailed lying to his family and hurting me to an extent you can imagine. So not even any remorse in lying to them or making me cry. Never. I should have done all because of him.

Lina, definitely we will never can fully understand their minds. For my peace of mind, I have figured out the reasons why. But only a psycho can do this. They lie and hurt because they're entitled to and moreover, we are at fault if we don't agree on their mindset. What a blurry haze they create for us. Thank God I'm out.

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