To Laura on this post: I'm married to a Egyptian man as well and what you say about western woman not being happy is teue

Submitted by Keira (Australia), Aug 30, 2019 at 18:53

Dear Laura,

I replied to your post but I think it must have been posted somewhere on this board where is not visible anymore, so I'm posting it again for you because maybe after reading all recent posts, you're still in doubt.

You have come here on your own. So I think that you truly know what you have to do. This man is verbally, emotionally and physically abusing you. This is not love and never will be! A man who hurts you, whether it is putting a black eye on you or putting you down with his words is not a man. It's rubbish you should kick out as fast as you can.

Is this the life you want to live??? Living in constant fear, not talking, not expressing yourself because you're scared of his response? I'm sure you don't want this.

Moreover, what you feel it's not love. What is happening is that you're now very into a foggy cloud. Narcissistic and abusers are responsible of creating this atmosphere for you to live in. You're confused now because they're like a drug and they make you feel you really need them to keep living. It's not true! They confuse you and make you doubt about every thing because it's the only way to keep you short. Also, I bet that you are still putting up with his shit because you're really scared of him.

Please, leave him go to Egypt and file whatever he wants to file. You're very lucky if he files the divorce because most of them refuse to do it. I suspect he married you to enter in our country, and now that he got it, he doesn't need you anymore. Shame on him! I wish immigration officers started being stricter with these heartless men.

Once he is out, you will see how relieved you feel without all his BS and dominant character. We have been blessed to live in a very beautiful country, where we women are free, have a say, can go outside alone, can work, can be single mothers without being a shame, do not need to cover our beauty because if we "lure" any psycho, we have laws to protect us! We are FREE here in Australia, Laura. Why do you want to waste your life with a man who doesn't respect you and doesn't allow you to be yourself, value you and take good care of you as partners do?

Please, apologise if I sound harsh, but we are here only to help and prevent women from suffering more pain. I'm sure you already know that you deserve better. And that's why you're here. Listen to your guts, listen to US, and read our miserable stories. You'll realise that you have come to the right place and that you're more than able to forget and live without this man.

Keep us posted.

Keira

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