similar story! thanks all for the help

Submitted by Mona_Cortez (United States), Sep 3, 2019 at 18:31

My story is similar to others'.

I met this Egyptian guy in German, 16 years my junior. Tall, slim, green eyed handsome guy. We met at a club. We had a good time and exchanged numbers. He come over to my hotel a couple of days later. We spent a nice evening. We went out for dinner and held hands the whole time.

He said he loved my body and if he could he would make me his wife. I only smiled and said thank you. Inside me I was laughing thinking what the hell is this guy thinking. He didn't know much of me to say that. But I took it as a compliment. I told him his mom wouldn't approve of me cause of our age difference. I just said that based on common sense. I was ignorant to many of the Islamic "rules", just knew the basic stuff.

Back to the story. We were supposed to meet the following day and gave me some bs excuse. It bother me a little, but I wasn't upset; it was like "whatever" to me. Maybe just a one-night stand.

Well, I left Germany without telling him. But I had made the mistake to also exchange emails. He emailed me daily, saying that he loves me that he never experienced anything as he did with me. I can't deny that the chemistry was there, kissing him felt good.

I asked several times if he was married and he said no. I started reading more on the multiple wives and I asked him about it. He said I would be the number 1 and bla bla bla. One day I got an email from him saying he had something to tell me, for me to call him. I called him and he didn't say anything important.

I found out on my own that he was recently married and has a kid. He said he was going to tell me about it, but didn't know how. He said he isn't happy with her since it was an arranged marriage and he only married her cause his dad asked him on his deathbed. He left his family in Egypt and he now lives in Germany and sends his money home.

I was supposed to go visit him in November. He told me to go visit him and marry him, for us to go to the US consulate get married and request him to immigrate. He even said if I wanted I could go to Germany with him and next year we could go to Egypt to meet his family. Then he changed to just meet his sister. I asked how he planned on doing it? If it was part of his marriage contract that he can have another wife? He told me not to worry.

After doing a lot of googling I found this site, DanielPipes.org. Everything that is happening to me has happened to some of you. So I made the decision to end the communication with him.

Now, I wasn't planning on going and marrying him. I just wanted to know more or get deeper to see how far he would go. I asked him if he had to notify his wife and he said no.

That's when I lost it and got tired of the game. I wrote him a long email saying I was out and ending our friendship. I explained to him how everything he had said was against my beliefs, my ideals, and everything that I had worked so hard to achieve as an Hispanic woman in the US. I told him I know my value and I wasn't going to settle for a #2 spot.

Well, he hadn't stopped emailing me. First he claimed he didn't know why or what he did. Then was upset saying I was making him out to be a bad evil man. That he wasn't interested in the green card, that all he wants is me. Cause he loves me forever and ever.

I told him to stop emailing me and that I would start dating in my city. He lost it. He said he was jealous that I belong to him and he belongs to me and nobody should touch me. That made me laugh I answered saying I wasn't a cow that he owned. He then sent me very detailed emails on how he would do sex to me. The last one said how he misses me. I haven't answered. I do not love him. It was just a little fairytale dream.

Thanks to all for reassuring me that I was right about that guy.

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