They say that when you confront them

Submitted by Keira (Australia), Sep 6, 2019 at 14:47

Dear Mona,

I'm really glad to hear that this board has helped you understand the nature of your relationship. I know it must have been very hard to come here and write about your story. But definitely, you have shown your strength and you have left him because you have very clear the kind of life you want for you. And that comprises standing up for the rights and freedom which costed you a lot to obtain. Well done!

Don't be sad and don't tremble even a little whenever you read those emails. Moreover, block him in your email as well so you won't need to read his BS anymore, because as long as they feel we still have feelings for them, they try to get into our srill open wounds. Cut it off from all your media. Your sanity will appreciate it, you will see.

When you confront them with all your knowledge about the religion, the family, what your marriage entails, and you ask about polygamy, double lives and especially the likelihood that he is using you for a Visa all of them will get angry at the beginning. Firstly, because it is our duty not to ask any question. Secondly, because we are accusing them and then they twist things and tell us that it is us who are acting wrongly. Them they will admit a few things, but he will be doing all because of his love! When they calm down, after trying to convince you that all will be fine but you still don't believe them, they will tell you my favourite: "I will be with you forever, we don't need to get married".

Yes. That one made me doubt for a second about his real intentions. And you know why I didn't believe it? Because it is nothing but another trick. They will try to get you pregnant because they think kids would speed up the Visa process. And yes in case of deportation, they can submit another type of offshore Visa to come to your country claiming that he has a kid in there. They know what they're doing. Oh, and don't ever forget that they will be spreading Islam through your womb as he will oblige you to raise the baby as a Muslim. This is not negotiable. So if anyone is thinking now "My relationship is fine because he doesn't want to get married", my advice is do not play with fire. Chances are that he has this plan in his mind.

Best wishes, Mona. You're now on the right path. Cut him off and get rid of those emails. Otherwise I can assure you that it would be very easy to step again with the same stone and fall again into him.

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