Eli

Submitted by Lana(USA) (United States), Sep 13, 2019 at 10:17

Eli,dear!

I know that I may sound harsh and very bitter,and it is going to hurt what I am going to tell you,but this is very typical behavior of those MENA men!!!

It is hard to bear the truth:
Those monsters will tell you exactly what you want to hear,they will be your "dream man",creating this dream of the future with him in your head,will play with your heart,and after they use you,you will be left behind with a broken heart,confused and in disbelief of how this could possibly happen to you!!!

Good thing that you came to this forum and you could clearly see that you are not alone!

He is playing with your feelings,like he or his compatriots did, with many of the other women in this forum!

Those monsters should have an Oscar for how good they could pretend to be your "perfect dream man"!

It makes me really mad!!!!

Please cut him off and even if he gets back to you-DO NOT RESPOND OR REACT TO ANYTHING FROM HIM!

IT WILL BE NOTHING ELSE BUT LIE,LIE and MORE LIE!!!!

He knows exactly what he is doing!!!!

And he will stop at nothing to use you again and again if you let him to!
You could clearly see them too,and with time-will become immune to such scammers.

He was even dare to fake your future together-what a scumbag!!!

There are a lot of the red flags in your letter,that may be clearly visible to someone, who was once in your shoes.
After the haze of the emotions will settle down-you will be able to see it too.
Gaslighting and brainwashing an empath,because of for an empath it is hard to believe that someone can be that cruel and evil minded.

Unfortunately those men use naive soft hearted and kind women to their advantage!!!!

True Muslim man will not be on ANY dating sites at all,as Islam prohibits dating and there is no boyfriend/girlfriend thing.
In Islam-there is no sex before marriage,otherwise you are no longer a "marriage material".
Not only that...their families will not approve someone outside of their tribe.

The rest you can learn from our stories here.

Welcome to this eye opening forum!

(Remember that love does not happen overnight,it has to grow with time!
Men are hunters by nature and he has to prove his worth to you,has to take time to know you,be caring and nice,patient with you,even before you consider to be intimate with him.)
Please do not let him near you to be used again!!!!

He does not loves you ,but manipulates your emotions.
Typical pick-upper,scammer and user!!!!
If your gut feeling tells you that something is wrong or does not adds up-more likely it is wrong !
If you make your choices out of pain,fear of being alone or guilt-more likely you got caught in manipulation.

All narcissists start their relationship as intense, love bombing...and later on it is s disaster!!!
You are not the only one of his victims,trust me!!!
He is not contacting you because he is scamming and being intimate with another one of his lovers,until she figures him out and then he will be back to you...it goes in circles and never ends!!!

You may do some research on the narcissistic behavior to understand better of what is going on.

Be careful with your heart,your head and your wallet!!!

Stay strong!
All the best to you!
We are here for you if you need support !!

LANA

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