To Eli from Argentina, about converting to Islam for marriage

Submitted by Susan, Sep 13, 2019 at 23:42

Eli,

I was married to an Egyptian man. After four years and two months we were able to physically escape from him. I will attach a summation of my first post about my story.

I will greatly caution you that a 'candle' that burns so intensely and brightly-quickly burns itself out. I do no tell you these words to hurt you, but to spare you further pain. From my experience, no Muslim man - that has any honorable intention of marriage and family - will ever sleep with, let alone kiss a woman before marriage. And the fact he has another dating profile speaks volumes. Trust your gut feeling. And not your heart here.

When I first started talking with Ahmed it quickly became so intense...within five months, after meeting in a depression chat room - I flew to Cairo to meet him...immediately we took several transportations, photographs, different government buildings, embassy to register marriage etc...then met his family....all this in one day - then the rest followed.

Please spare yourself further pain. Quit talking with him. There are men(I saw this when we lived in Egypt) that spend ALL DAY at Internet cafes...talking with different women, ' Ya habibi. Ana Bahebek..wahashtini omry..

Cut things off with him in another country.

Submitted by Susan (United States), Sep 22, 2009 at 00:04

To make a long story short. I am 26 years old, my son is three and a half. Out of desperation, in survival mode, when we were not allowed to leave my son and I climbed out a bathroom window to flee my husband. I believe he has been married several times before, possibly not just Egyptian women, possibly Western.

We met online five years ago in a depression chat room for yahoo. Married five months later in Cairo. Pregnant within a month of marriage. things escalated with excuse and apology..day after day until he stopped doing that and that is just the way 'things were' for us. Daily physical and emotional abuse, death threats, name calling, became the norm in our family. I had to protect my son. I had to live to protect my son.. so we escaped through a window while he was on the computer. He has had innumerable affairs, more than I'll probably ever know. Both online and in person. He did things with other women in front of our son even. I know this from a three year old trying to explain to me the games daddy and daisy would play on the bed without clothes. And the abuse in our marital relations I cannot even begin to relate.

But KNOW this: if anyone knows this man please contact me we could reach out to help each other. I know that we, his past family, are not his only victims. he attacked my neighbor, he attacked his cousin in rape attempts. He still has not replied to my divorce papers, has someone stalking us (because he cannot do so with the restraining order himself...). and God forbid next month he may gain visitation of my son. I know now that we are only here today to tell our story, that by God's graces we were able to survive to leave him. we still pray. I pray for God to continue to protect my son...the courts don't seem to want to do it and our lawyer has it conceded that we must accept visitation...please stranger pray for us as I pray for you.

This man used me as a ticket to the states, to get a visa, to get citizenship and now merely we are his possessions. Do not be fooled by the love of Allah ...there is no such thing. Study the religion closely to see this..there are provisions for men to beat their wives* if they are disobedient...provisions for men to have extramarital affairs with other women so long as they are not muslims..and that in heaven the man is rewarded with 50 virgins, women untouched by any man, simply for him only....the only truth, the only way, is Jesus Christ. There is love and forgiveness.

PLEASE, I beg of you, any woman talking or thinking of going to a foreign country to marry a middle eastern man, hear my story, from me and my three and a half year old son.do not do it. he may love you in some way, but with Islam, there are no provisions for the woman. trust me on this, marry a christian man(...'they become one flesh, treat her as you would treat yourself). One day, whether it be today, tomorrow, or a year from now. I have NO DOUBT this man will try, if not succeed in killing me as promised. please remember my words when you talk to that man.habibi.omry.ya hayaty that encompasses your world at that very moment. I am sure he loves you but what will he do to you? Godbless, my prayers and sympathies are with you Amanda -Susan

ps I can send a photo if anyone needs it. He is 6'1, 220 lbs, hazel-dark brown eyes, black hair (was wavy when younger with a small moustache), very charming, highly intelligent (linguist in five languages), charismatic.

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