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Submitted by nikki (United States), Oct 4, 2019 at 00:14

Hello!
I wrote on this website before and I am curious what you would say. In short, my 24 year old daughter a graduate student, fell for a Moroccan who claimed to be a grad student as well. He is 8 years older, excuse after excuse no degree earned and wanted to move in with her first week they met. He managed and moved in 3 months later! My husband found this out, got into a major confrontation with my daughter which ended up in a major lawsuit. My daughter sued her father. Her boyfriend promptly became her fiancé. She went no contact with me for four months. I called him and voila she called back. They needed help w apartment lease. I said OK. Anyway, she looked terrible. All depressed, unkept. My daughter was a different person and she kept telling me she was happy at least 5 times every time she met me.
My colleague who speaks Arabic, promised to visit the restaurant where the fiance worked(when he didn't play student role) since I initially lost all contact with her. He actually went there 3 months later I after I already established the contact. My colleague called me out of the blue and said how the guy said his papers were expired, he hated my daughter who was hysterical and that she was fat and ugly. He also said he was hoping for papers and money and how he is patient and he will get that from us. He has a plan. My daughter and I were supposed to meet on Sunday after that conversation. I asked her if we could meet outside of her apartment. I simply did not trust myself not to tell him anything. She refused, said he would be at home all day. She was stone walling me and I lost patience and said the truth. That he only expects her to pay his stuff. That he boasts that he has girlfriends on.a side and his own money. That he did not finish graduate school, all he managed was to become a bartender. I calmly said that before she does anything, she needs to know the truth. If she still wishes to live with him so be it.
She never replied, just blocked me on everything. The man is a scammer. Even he confirmed it personally. But she believes him and does not believe me. Her boyfriend told me he would prolong my husband's restraining order for another year and a half. I told her about it and asked why. My husband is not doing anything and following court orders. I said if you do not wish to speak to your dad, that' fine however your boyfriend cannot make those decisions. She said he had a language barrier!! I said no, please, don't say that.
Basically, he can do no wrong. She lives on her graduate student pay and supports him as well. Hates all of us. Rejected her own sister who is 16. So, please tell me, have you heard of this before? I feel that she had changed and abandoned everything that was important to her. She no longer wears make up. Dresses like hell in sneakers however he is fully dresses and pressed including the hairstyle! This year has been hell. She behaves like an enchanted moron! I stepped aside. How do these situations end?

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